Living in the #metoo, female empowerment and equality movement, it’s easy to feel a little overwhelmed and anxious about, just how do you find your inner voice? Is it in your toes? Is it stuck in your throat chakra? Perhaps it’s under a mushroom on the side of a Tibetan Mountain? Or maybe, you just don’t have one?
While the message “go find your voice” is strong and you may indeed have a blockage in your throat chakra, the good news is you already have a voice. You were born with a voice. You just need to reconnect to it.
As a baby you were perfect with a body and mind that was in constant dynamic exchange with the universe. We know you were connected with your voice because you are still here. Your voice was your only connection to the big wide world. You needed to create exactly the right breath pressure to your mum and dad: I’m tired, I’m hungry or I’m scared. You had no self-doubt, manipulation or room for misinterpretation. You told everyone in no uncertain terms who you were, what you wanted and asked for what you needed.
For a few of us, this never changed. Maybe you manage to maintain constant flow and confidence based on a strong self-belief system and stayed connected to the circulation of your breath.
More likely however, for the majority us, by the age 8-12 years, things started to change. You started to find it difficult to express yourself freely. You filtered your thoughts and became no longer brave enough to ask for what you desired through fear of being shut down, ignored or in some cases, abused just for having an opinion.
Essentially, you stopped the circulation of breath. This stopped the flow of blood and life, leaving a stagnate feeling of fear, disempowerment and frustration. Fast tracking through your teens, bypassing your twenties and stumbling into your thirties you start to feel like you don’t have a voice.
“Finding your voice” means identifying your values and beliefs while reconnecting with the basic law of giving and receiving. The action of breathing ties this law to finding your authentic voice.
When your breath stops flowing, the voice stops resonating.
The most important thing to remember is the intention behind your breath. The intention behind what you are about to say should always be to create happiness for you and the listener. Happiness is life-supporting and life-sustaining. In other words, speak from the heart.
When speaking, the law of giving and receiving is alive in every breath. With each inhalation and exhalation, you are exchanging ten billion trillion atoms with your environment.
Right now, take a deep a breath into your abdomen and hold it. Notice how uncomfortable you begin to feel as you hold onto something that is meant to be released.
Now, completely exhale and hold your breath with empty lungs. Again, feel the discomfort that arises as you resist taking in something that you need.
At the onset of speaking, complementary pairs of muscles are contracting and relaxing, holding and releasing in accordance with the law of giving and receiving.
The next time you feel like you don’t have a voice, your mind becomes anxious and your body becomes uncomfortable, ask yourself what you are resisting? How do I want my listener to feel and am I actually breathing?
Connecting with your breath for a moment is easy but understanding how to remove the blocks you have built over years takes an expert. I want you to think, speak your truth in all situations and at all times without effort. This is my goal and your destiny.